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1) People never change.
If you don't like something about the other person now, it WILL become a problem later.


2) Even if you are unsure of what you want, always be sure of what you DON'T want.


3) NEVER get into a relationship with a person that cheated/left their significant other for you. There's a pretty high chance that they'll do it again when they're bored of you or the relationship. Don't be a fool.


4) There's a reason why they are no longer with their ex. Try not to be jealous.


5) You shouldn't have to be constant fear of losing your significant other, always thinking..."Omg, what if i do this and he doesn't like me anymore?" or "What would she think of me if she knew?"...."What if she wakes up one morning and decides that she doesn't love me anymore?" "What if he falls for that girl in his office?"
You should be confident that if they were approached by a really hot person, they'd just shake it off and walk away.


6) Anyone is capable of anything. Don't think they won't cheat on you. Trust me, i've seen it first hand. Even the people who you think would never cheat...CAN and WILL. However, you might never find out (sucks for you).
This point kinda contradicts my last, but whatever!


7) If you start picking up signs of things you DON'T want in a relationship, talk to them about it...and if it seems to go nowhere, Leave.


8) When you stop enjoying the presence of the other person, and the relationship seems like a drag...Get out.


9) When the trust is lost, the relationship goes downhill.


10) When the lies begin, the relationship ends.


11) If you're not happy, you should probably end it. Better now, than later...when you are much MORE attached.


12) Don't stay with the person if the bad times outweigh the good times. If you spend the majority of your time together fighting, then it's not worth it.


13) Make sure you're able to stand their temper when they're mad or when you guys are fighting. (Because let's face it, it's gonna happen a lot if you are together for a while.)


14) None of that break-up, make-up ****. If it didn't work the first time around, it won't EVER work.


15) Do not, i repeat, DO NOT, get too attached. Always ask yourself, if he were to leave me tomorrow, would I have other things lined up to do? Never be the person whose world falls apart when their significant other leaves them.


16) If you can't see yourself with them for a while, don't get into a relationship. Have your fun, enjoy your time together, but that's it.


17) Try, i mean REALLY try to work at it. Don't just step over your problems. It will always come back. Try to understand the other point of view. Don't always think you are right. Most of the times, both sides have good reasons to be angry, it's just both people too stubborn/heated to see the other side.


18) DO NOT cut ties with your friends once you get into a serious relationship. You won't have anyone to turn to when you're having relationship problems, and no one's going to want to hang out with you once you get dumped.


19) Try to have the mindset that if they were to leave you tomorrow, you'd be okay. You'd be sad, of course, but you'd be okay. Who gives an eff...their loss!


20) Try not to take breaks, but if absolutely necessary, be clear what the "break" means. Be specific. Don't pull a Ross.


21) Breaking up is not the end of the world. (Despite what you may think at the time.)


22) After a break-up, you have to work on bettering yourself. If you run into them or talk to them six months later, you'd want to be able to make them think, "Damn, I wish I hadn't let her go" or "Her new boyfriend is a lucky *******".
You may think..."Why do i even care what my ex thinks of me? I don't give a s***. I shouldn't even be doing anything because of them."
But no, think of it this way: If you are constantly bettering yourself, one relationship after another...in the end, it's for YOUR benefit. You become a much better person overall.


23) Always trade up.
You would think this a given right? But it just blows my mind how some girls (or guys) can go from someone who treated them really well to someone who treats them like a P.O.S. Every guy that i've dated has been better (for me) than the previous guy. Otherwise, there'd be no point. Don't settle for less.


24) Hanging out with you ex = bad idea.
Unless you're both single...and just looking for some ass.


25) Have fun!
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Ini rules harusnya dibikin sticky aja di subforum LDR, jadi tiap kali ada orang mau nanya masalah soal pdkt atau pacaran, langsung suruh baca ini rules
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hehe nice tips
Nobody's perfect however and y dun we just be good one to each other..the rest will follow wont it??
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yeah yeah bener kata si PB..ini udah rangkuman di thread LDR
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setuju .... udah di stick juga deh. bisa jadi sumber rujukan. LOL.
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Nice set of rules..
But are they really applicable?
Kayaknya sebagian besar pasangan jadian gara2 cinta lokasi.. Mereka hanya memilih dari ruang sample (statistik banget) yg sangat terbatas.. Jadi skala yg terbaik dari lingkungan pergaulan yg mereka kenal. Sangat disayangkan Gereja dijadikan Hunting Field gara2 dianggap sebagai standar komunitas yg baik...
Giliran uda ngelirik cowo ato cewe di Gereja or dilingkungannya yg kelihatan "bersinar", gue jamin semua rules itu akan dilupakan.. Dan TOLERANSI MODE ON! hehehe, dengan dalih bahwa no body is perfect (emang) mulai melonggarkan aturan... what a shame
Mendingan ga usa pake rules segala deh.. Dan juga jangan pake alasan Tanya TUHAN dulu.. hehehe, TUHAN bukan konsultan jodoh.. hahaha
Pake logika, dan jangan pake perasaan, kalo engga dijamin tertipu.. that's the only rule
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Nice set of rules..
But are they really applicable?
Kayaknya sebagian besar pasangan jadian gara2 cinta lokasi.. Mereka hanya memilih dari ruang sample (statistik banget) yg sangat terbatas.. Jadi skala yg terbaik dari lingkungan pergaulan yg mereka kenal. Sangat disayangkan Gereja dijadikan Hunting Field gara2 dianggap sebagai standar komunitas yg baik...
Giliran uda ngelirik cowo ato cewe di Gereja or dilingkungannya yg kelihatan "bersinar", gue jamin semua rules itu akan dilupakan.. Dan TOLERANSI MODE ON! hehehe, dengan dalih bahwa no body is perfect (emang) mulai melonggarkan aturan... what a shame
Mendingan ga usa pake rules segala deh.. Dan juga jangan pake alasan Tanya TUHAN dulu.. hehehe, TUHAN bukan konsultan jodoh.. hahaha
Pake logika, dan jangan pake perasaan, kalo engga dijamin tertipu.. that's the only rule
Dude, did you even read the "rules" above?
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Dude, did you even read the "rules" above?
Yup.. read it clearly mate...
Especially rule number 25.
what makes you questioning that?
Know the rules and break it.. that's the rule
"Upah Dosa adalah maut" That's a rule.. but God Himself break it (John3:16)..
So what's wrong for us human to break a rule as long as we have a strong reason.
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Yup.. read it clearly mate...
Especially rule number 25.
what makes you questioning that?
Know the rules and break it.. that's the rule
"Upah Dosa adalah maut" That's a rule.. but God Himself break it (John3:16)..
So what's wrong for us human to break a rule as long as we have a strong reason.
Don't take it too serious mate, cheers up
Kalo udah baca, kenapa kait2in sama "gereja", "tanya Tuhan", "pake logika", dan sekarang bawa2 ayat dan mention soal dosa lagi Kalo mau buat topik baru, silakan ntar gue ikutan partisipasi di situ deh.
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"Upah Dosa adalah maut"
apa hubungannya ma upah dosa adalah maut???

jadi bingung gw....
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anyway ... kutipan berikut diambil dari bulbo FS. what do you guys think? romantic or jeezzh .. another wussy guy here?

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Guys hate sluts even though they have sex with them! (oh yeah..you're not "popular" if you've slept with more than 6 guys..you're a HOE)

Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him

Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest.

Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.

Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.

Guys get jealous easily.

Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.

Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.

When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.

When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you
because they don't want you to disagree with them.

When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.

Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.

A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.

If you are going to reject a guy, just do it. Don't say they are like a brother or just good friends, it just hurts even more. Tell them that you aren't interested in a relationship and they will respect you.

Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.
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Klo manusia yg dulu telah ditinggalkan... kayanya semua perspektif diatas hampir banyak yg salah ^.^
Quote dari seseorang "Kalo seorang pria bertemu dengan seorang wanita n sebaliknya, hal yg pertama disadari adalah bertemu dengan seseorang yg juga berdosa dan membutuhkan kasih Yesus yg terutama, yg memungkinkan kasih yg sesungguhnya antara pria & wanita tsb..
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Tadinya sangkanya rules apaan...gak tahunya bagus....

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Talking 25 Rules of Dating - Indonesian Version

Karena banyak yg susah ngebacanya in English, ni gw bikin versi Indo nya. Sorry bikin kalian ribet ngebacanya kemaren.


1) Orang ngga pernah or sulit berubah.
Jika ada yg lo NGGA suka dari seseorang sekarang, hal itu akan jadi masalah nantinya.


2) Bahkan jika lo ngga pasti akan apa yg lo mau, lo harus tau pasti apa yg lo NGGA mau.


3) JANGAN pernah terlibat hubungan dengan orang yang pernah berbuat curang / selingkuh sama lo. Kesempatan untuk kembali selingkuh sangatlah besar saat mrk merasa bosan dengan lo atau dengan hubungan kalian. Jangan bodoh.


4) Selalu ada alasan mengapa mereka putus dengan ex mereka. Cobalah tidak cemburu.


5) Jangan selalu berpikir dan takut akan kehilangan pasangan lo, dgn mikir,”Gimana kalo gue ngelakuin ini n doi ngga suka gw lagi?” ato “Apa yg dia pikirin ttg gw kalo dia tw?” ... “Gimana kalo dia bangun di suatu pagi dan mutusin kalo dia ngga suka gw lagi?” "Gimana kalo dia jatuh cinta dengan temen sekantornya?”
Percaya dirilah bahwa walo mereka dideketin ma orang yg bener” memikat hatinya, mrk ngga akan tertarik n menjauh.


6) Siapapun mampu melakukan apapun. Jangan pernah mikir mrk ga bakal selingkuh. Percaya ma gw, gw udah pernah ngalamin. Bahkan orang yg lo pikir ngga mungkin dia selingkuh...BISA dan AKAN. Lo ngga bakalan pernah tw itu.
Kontradiksi dengan yg sebelumnya emang, tapi whatever lah!


7) Jika ada sesuatu yg lo NGGA suka dari hubungan kalian, bicarakan...n jika ngga ada juntrungannya, Tinggalkan ajah.


8) Ketika lo ngerasa ga enjoy lagi dengan kehadiran seseorang, dan relasi itu kelihatan datar…Keluarlah dari hubungan itu.


9) Kalo uda ga ada rasa saling percaya, hubungan akan memburuk.


10) Ketika mulai ada kebohongan, relasi bubar.


11) Kalo lo ngerasa ngga hepi, sebaiknya akhiri. Lebih baek sekarang, drpd ntar...saat lo mulai LEBIH terikat ma dia.


12) Jika lo ngalamin hal buruk lebih banyak ketimbang hal baek dgn pasangan lo, tinggalkan. Jika kebanyakan waktu lo ma dia untuk bertengkar, maka hubungan itu ngga berharga.


13) Pastikan lo bisa ngadepin temperamen mereka ketika mrk marah or ketika kalian bertengkar. (hadapi itu, karena itu pasti akan terjadi dalam sebuah hubungan.)


14) Ngga ada yg namanya putus, nyambung ****. Kalo dari pertama udah ngga nyambung, NGGA akan pernah nyambung.


15) Jangan pernah, sekali lagi, JANGAN PERNAH, terlalu terikat ma pasangan. Jangan jadi orang yg seakan” ngga bisa hidup lagi karena putus ma pasangannya.


16) Kalo lo ngga bisa jadi diri lo sendiri saat ma dia, jgn terlibat hubungan. Seneng” ajah, nikmatin waktu kalian bersama, tapi udah segitu ajah.


17) Cobalah, maksud gw BENER” coba untuk mengusahakannya. Jangan ngelewatin masalah gitu ajah. Masalah itu bakalan balik lagi. Coba lihat dari sudut pandang yg laen. Ngga selalu lo itu bener. Kebanyakan waktu, baik lo ato dia punya alasan bagus buat marah, tapi seringnya lo berdua sama” keras kepala buat ngeliat dari sudut pandang yang laen.


18) JANGAN PERNAH putus hubungan dengan temen” lo walo lo sedang dalam masa pacaran yg uda serius. Coz lo bakalan butuh mereka kalo hubungan lo lagi ada masalah or kalian putus.


19) Miliki mindset kalo dia ngga lagi sama lo, lo bakal baek” saja. Lo sedih, pastinya, tapi lo bakal baek” ajah.


20) Cobalah untuk ngga ada istilah “Lebih baek kita ‘break’ dulu”, kalopun itu perlu, be spesifik apa yg lo maksud dengan “break”. Jangan ngambang.


21) Putus bukan akhir dari segalanya. (Terlepas dr apa yg lo pikir n rasa waktu itu.)


22) Setelah putus, lo harus bikin diri lo lebih baek. Kalo lo ketemu mereka lagi 6 bulan kemudian, lo bakalan pingin mereka mikir, "Kampret, knp gw dulu ngelepasin dia ya?" ato "Beruntung banget pacarnya yg sekarang ya?".
Lo mungkin mikir..."Kenapa gw mesti mikirin apa yg ex gw pikirin soal gw? Gw ga peduli."

Tapi jangan, lebih baek lo mikir gini: Kalo lo secara konstan n konsisten bikin diri lo lebih baek, dari satu hubungan ke laennya…pada akhirnya, itu buat keuntungan LO sendiri. Lo bakalan jadi orang yang lebih baek secara keseluruhan.


23) Selalu dapetin yg lebih baek dari sebelumnya.
Lo bakal mikir apa ini yg tepat? Jangan pernah cari ganti yang lebih buruk dari sebelumnya. Tapi dapetin yg lebih baek dari sebelumnya. Pastikan itu. Coz kalo lo dapetin yg lebih buruk dari sebelumnya, lebih baek jgn terusin…


24) Hangout ma ex = bad idea.
Kecuali sama” single...dan cuman cari angin segar.


25) Have fun!



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